Rose’s Dream

Rose came to me today at lunch, and she told me about this “really strange dream” she had.  Now she does not know about this page or about our interest in adopting again.  While we are hoping for another addition in the near future, we are not actively pursuing expectant mothers or anything like that.  We are here and ready when the time comes.  Our son’s birthmother found us, and she was not hassled or pressured into adoption, and we hope the same for the next.  As we are preparing for our ad litem visit tomorrow and Torin’s adoption finalization in 2 weeks, we are not even giving a thought to another baby right now.  At least we haven’t been.  That’s not to say we’re not open to it, we just aren’t focused on it.  Until we know something different, we are focusing on our time with Rose and Torin.

So Rose told me about her dream.  She said it was really strange because I (me, not her) was holding another baby while I was taking care of Torin.  She couldn’t tell if it was a boy or a girl when she thought about it later, but she says she thought it was her sibling in the dream.  I asked her how old the baby was, and she said it was a little baby… and Torin was still young, too.  She thought it was strange, and she asked if we were wanting another baby.  I was honest with her and told her it was a possibility, and I asked if she wanted another sibling.  She is very excited about the prospect!

With all that said, her telling me about her dream made me wonder.  Is an expectant mom out there and looking for us?

Our Journey To Adoption

This is a post by Kris  about my (and later – our) journey to adoption.

Rose was born in 2001, and since then, I have always wanted to have more children.  Unfortunately, it was never the right time… until 2009. By then, I was with the love of my life, and we were ready to expand.  We found a donor, and we began inseminations at the end of 2009, we used an awesome donor to conceive a beautiful baby girl we named Skyler.  She was born on September 9, 2010, but unfortunately, she passed away at birth due to complications.

Losing Skyler was extremely difficult as she was the most wanted little girl in the whole world, but I didn’t give up. We conceived again, and I gave birth to a beautiful little girl named Tabitha on July 21, 2011.  She also passed away at birth due to the same complications as her sister.  I had to have Tabi’s placenta surgically removed, and I had another surgery in August 2012.  One of those surgeries rendered me unable to conceive again.  We did try again at the end of 2012 and early 2013 before accepting that our family would be expanding through adoption instead.

I watched a movie with Rose at the end of April 2013.  At the end of the movie, I noticed I had a voicemail.  When I listened, it was a woman who was pregnant and found our letter. She said she really wanted to talk to us about adoption. My wife and I called her back, and we talked for hours.  She was about 26 weeks along, and she was interested in meeting us.  We met the following weekend at Ihop with her and our baby’s birthfather.  We talked for hours, and from that moment on, she kept us updated as to her pregnancy.  We periodically got texts like, “Your son is kicking my ribs!” They chose adoption because they were young (both 19), and they had other plans for their lives besides being parents that young.  They are wonderful people who we still maintain a good relationship with.

I want my children to grow up with siblings, but our new son is over 12 years younger than his sister.  She will be going to college in a few years, and he will be the only child left at home.  I would love for him to have another sibling to grow up with, and since we had such an awesome experience with our son’s open adoption, I am hoping for a similar experience in the future.